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If you want to confident, watch this 😘

Damn I used to be the worsttttt at dealing with conflict.

With previous partners I would just shut down, not bring up something that bothered me or express how I was feeling, and if we started a conversation, it would just end up in a loop of toxic reactivity. They’d say something that triggered me, I’d react (instead of responding), that would trigger them…and so the cycle would continue, escalating to explosion.

Thankfully, conflict with my partner now looks very different! (to the point where ‘conflict’ doesn’t even feel like an appropriate word to use)

Anywayyyyy the two most important hacks I’ve learnt during conflict (and any conversation really) is…

1.VULNERABILITY, and

2. Listening to understand rather than to respond.

Initially, they’re pretty damn hard to do! They’re the last things you feel like doing. And yet the only things you can do during conflict that will create more connection as opposed to disconnection.

See, what we tend to do during conflict is either defend ourselves or attack. Most of the time we’re not actually listening to what our partner is even saying.

But, when we let down our walls, and actually show our hearts, our emotion, our vulnerability…

Our partners walls naturally melt away too.

Because human beings are made for connection. When someone is vulnerable with us we’re hardwired for compassion, love, empathy and understanding.

See, humans just want to be seen, heard and understood.

And so, when you create a space where your partner feels that way, you’ll watch their defensive, angry exterior melt away.

Swipe to see the six steps to maintaining connection during conflict 👉

And some examples of reactive vs vulnerable conflict-handling ❤️

Make sure you save this one for later! x

This girl... She looks happy right?

Shes not.

(Sure shes having fun superficially, but just below the surface shes deeply unhappy)

She was in a relationship that had toxic & unhealthy patterns.

Her & her partner were enabling & triggering each others traumas causing constant hurtful & explosive arguments. Stuck in a trauma loop.

She used alcohol, drugs & partying to create superficial happiness & connection when she was really craving intimacy, love & fulfillment.

(Which made the comedown days 10x worse 🙈🤪)

She cried. A lot.

Her confidence was 0.

She compared herself constantly.
Was afraid of being judged, not accepted, not liked.
Afraid of being cheated on or left.

She was searching for a meaningful life
She knew she was destined for great things
But she had no idea how to get there.

Fast forward a good 8 years & I barely recognise this girl.

I have so much love & compassion for her, & remembering how she used to feel, how she allowed others to treat her, how she treated herself... It hurts my heart 😭😭

My reality now:
Im no longer reliant on others for love, acceptance & validation. I love being in my own company, I feel confident to speak up & express my needs/desires, I feel sexy & radiant, I am truly fulfilled by my life & my work, Im in an intimate, expansive, supportive relationship 💦💖🔥 I still have ups & downs, perfection doesnt exist. But I can say, I am truly happy.

How I got to where I am now 👇

🌻 I mastered my emotions - I learnt to understand my emotions on a deeper level, how to move & process them through my body, & how to self-soothe

🌻 I uncovered the core beliefs I created in childhood, unpatterned them & created new beliefs, took empowered action & set boundaries from this new up-levelled place

🌻 I learnt to truly love myself & my body with the 5 love languages, learnt to love spending time with myself, & I connected to my pleasure & sensuality through embodiment work

🌻 I learnt Empowered Communication, got clear on my desires in life & in relationship, & decided to finally stop settling for less than what I wanted, taking empowered actions to get there

Dm me to learn how you can get here too

HOW to feel more empowered 🔥

Its so easy to place our power outside of ourselves 👇

Once I lose __ kg, then Ill feel sexy
Once I feel sexy, then I can do ___
Once I can do ____, then Ill feel happy
Once I make __ amount of money, then I can do ___
Once I meet the right person, then Ill finally feel ____

Heres the thing though...

All of it starts within YOU.

YOU are the one that holds all the power.

And ONLY YOU are the one who can change your situation.

See, its much easier to stay where you are. In the familiar.

Change, growth, its uncomfortable AF.

So even though your conscious mind says you want to change, your subconscious really doesnt want to change at all.

And thats where resistance arises.

...So how do you dissolve it?

Well you know that icky feeling when youre staring down the barrel of doing something that feels scary, edgey... something youve never done before?

What if you reframed your perspective on that feeling, & made it exciting instead?

Could you feel turned on by it!? 💦

Could you allow that turn on to dissolve the subconscious resistance into yummy excitementment & desire? And fuel a big fat YES to doing the scary thing?

😍🔥🤤

Cause babe the only way anythinggggggg will ever shift...

- Your confidence
- Your ability to speak up
- Whether you feel sexy or 🤮
- Your anxiety
- Your people pleasing
- Your numbing
- Your burnout

... Is if you do something youve never done before.

💥

So if youre ready for REAL change babe...

Send me a dm & lets get this shit started. 🔥

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